Issue 10 October 2006
Sanity Saver #12: Use Your Life As Your Teacher
We all know that our children are our greatest teachers; they
mirror our opportunities for growth, whether we want them to or
not. But if we chose, any relationship--any situation or circumstance--can
also serve as our teacher. Too many of us think that learning
is limited to the classroom, but why not consider your life to
be a 24/7 seminar?
Using your life as your teacher is about paying attention to
everything that occurs during your day. It’s a matter of
being mindful of your interactions, your reactions and what they
tell you about yourself and your life. The Buddha said to his
disciples, “Be a light unto yourself.”
The definition of consciousness is “that with which we
know.” To live more consciously is to be aware moment to
moment, to be present in everything that you do. There is an old
saying, “it’s a rare fish that knows it swims in water.”
Becoming consciously aware of your life is a demanding activity,
but one that will add depth and richness.
For example how many times have you felt enraged at your ex-husband
or boss? Come on now, we all have from time to time. May I suggest
that the next time you have these feelings rather than simply
turning into Cruella de Ville or wishing they would disappear
from your life why not see your interactions as a catalyst? Ask
yourself does this person challenge your authority by questioning
your decisions? Do they demand more of you than you are willing
to give? Why not use these relationships to grow stronger in your
convictions, to practice standing up for yourself, to set clearer
You have a choice about how you want to view every situation.
You can see the irritation of dealing with an uncooperative ex-husband
or an unreasonable employer as an undeserved aggravation or as
an opportunity. While these interactions may feel more like sandpaper
than growth, you can choose to use them to polish your rough edges
and strengthen yourself. The choice lies in your attitude.
Yes, I realize it means making a major shift in your thinking,
but I think that you’ll find the results of this shift are
well worth the effort. This is just one example of how you can
allow your life to become your teacher.
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